Stop the Aggression!
“Out With Aggression!” is a LIVE, 6-week, community program.
Stop your boy’s aggression and feel hopeful again!
Dr. Shefali
Clinical Psychologist
"Through her deep understanding of the dynamics at play in family interactions, Tosha empowers parents to transcend aggression and cultivate compassionate connections with their children, fostering true transformation within their families.”
Yes, your son can have less intensity, aggression, and outbursts
“The aggression has decreased considerably!”
“The aggression has decreased considerably! We’re having a lot more fun and feel more connected.
The atmosphere at home has changed dramatically, it’s much more relaxed.”
~Out With Aggression Parent
“Much less often!”
“He is hitting much less often! And when he does start, we have much better tools to diffuse the situation before a full battle begins.”
~Out With Aggression Parent
“It’s almost non-existent!”
“His rough behaviors are almost non-existent now, and when they do happen, things go so much more smoothly.”
~Out With Aggression Parent.”
Let's face it,
You’re at your wit’s end with your son’s aggressive behavior
It feels like you’ve done everything and he’s STILL hitting, biting, grabbing, spitting, yelling, swearing, pushing, throwing.
You’ve tried gentle parenting, setting limits, bribing, disciplining, therapy, and more - but nothing has made a real difference.
If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place!
My trainings have been used by over 20,000 parents worldwide to help their boys move past aggressive behaviors.
The good news is that there is nothing wrong with your child. There is hope. He just needs the right approach to leave this behind!
Because you’re done with:
Getting injured
“Our son attacks us out-of-the-blue, and nothing we try works.”
Your son’s aggression might come out of nowhere, happen all the time, or be a response to something simple like putting the iPad away.
You’re always on edge because you don’t know what will happen next: kicking, head-butting, hitting, or having a remote thrown at you.
It would be a HUGE relief to have your son’s aggression subside, fewer outbursts, and get hurt less..
Feeling alone
“His behavior affects our relationships with everyone. Our friends won't see our kids. Even their grandparents don't really want to see them anymore. Our marriage is starting to deteriorate now too. I'm at a loss.”
It’s totally normal to feel afraid, embarrassed, and ashamed to talk about what’s really going on with your son.
Nobody gets what it’s like to have an aggressive child. You wonder what they think. Notice them pulling away. It’s so freaking isolating.
It would help to be around people who are going through the same thing and making real strides!.
Acting out
“I try to be patient, but many days I end up losing my shit and screaming at my son after being pushed to the extreme.”
You sometimes lose it on your child because you just don’t know what to DO anymore.
You need tools to deal with this in an effective way, so you can be the parent you want to be.
Hurting emotionally
“I struggled with my son’s verbal aggression. I felt hopeless and didn't know what to do. I’d get very upset and take it personally. I felt disconnected from my son.”
Hearing things like, “I wish you were dead” or “I wish you weren’t my mom” drives a wedge between you and your child.
You want your child to communicate in a healthy way and to have a good relationship with you.
Being at odds with your partner
“My partner handles things much more authoritatively, and although I don’t agree with his approach, I don’t know the best way forward.”
You share the same goal, but have completely different ideas about how to get there.
You want to get on the same page as your partner, instead of using different approaches (and having none of them work!).
Worrying about their future
The hardest part is worrying about what your sweet boy will be like as an adult. After everything you’ve tried so far, it feels hopeless.
You lie awake at night wondering if they’ll grow up to be violent, how they’ll treat women, if they’ll end up in jail.
You’re committed to helping your son overcome his aggression and grow into the sweet, well-adjusted person he’s meant to be!
Seeing siblings become aggressive
“My other kids are modeling his aggressive behavior.”
You worry (or notice) that your son’s behavior is rubbing off on their siblings.
Reduce violence, stop your kids from hurting each other, and prevent your other kids from picking up this behavior.
Having your child run the family
“My son gets mad, rude and nasty if he doesn’t get what he wants, the *exact* way he wants it.”
The whole family revolves around this boy.
Everyone tiptoes around him to avoid setting him off, which is especially difficult since he’s rigid and gets triggered easily.
You want your child to be part of the family, not run the family. Things would be so much easier if he was less demanding..
You’re so ready to put an end to your son’s aggression
It’s time to stop the cycle of bribery, consequences and yelling. After all, it’s not helping anyway… and actually makes things worse!
The truth is that your child doesn’t want to act out - his aggression is a reflex from his underlying fear or anxiety.
Underneath the violence is just a sweet, scared boy.
To reduce or eliminate the outbursts, you need to address these root issues. And that’s what you’ll do in Out With Aggression.
You alone can make a difference!
It takes just one person to help your boy move past these issues.
Even if your partner isn’t on board, you can use the Out With Aggression system to help heal your son.
Chances are, your partner will come around to your approach once they see the incredible difference it makes!
What we’ll do together, in community.
Week 1
We’ll get you set up to succeed!
Questions we’ll be considering:
Who do I need to communicate with, and what do I need to share?
What kind of support do I need for myself, so that that I can go all in for my boy?
How do I shift my mindset to one of “I’ve got this!”?
Week 2
You’ll build or strengthen the trust between you and your sweet boy.
Questions we’ll be considering:
What are my hopes and dreams for my boy?
What might I do to help my boy feel that I’m on his team?
How can I feel more connected my my boy?
Week 3
You’ll put on your detective hat and do some sleuthing.
Questions we’ll be considering:
What might be causing the aggression?
What have I already figured out?
Is there a pattern to it?
Week 4
You’ll get really good at setting loving limits.
Questions we’ll be considering:
What even IS a loving limit?
Why are limits important?
Which limits are important to me?
Talking to him isn’t working. What can I do instead?
Week 5
You’ll learn (or remember) how to play!
Questions we’ll be considering:
How can I use play to create closeness between me and my boy?
Are there ways I can use play in response to my boy’s aggression?
Week 6
You’ll have an extra week with me, and in community, to implement, get feedback, and iterate.
Questions we’ll be considering:
How’s the aggression compared to six weeks ago?
What tools come easy to me, and which are more challenging?
What’s my plan for maintaining my gains?
Renee Jain
Founder, GoZen
"If you're parenting a boy with aggressive behaviors and feel like you're at the end of your rope, there is a lifeline for you. Tosha Schore's "Out With Aggression" is practical, actionable, and best of all, effective. This program is for any family looking for a turning point toward peace and positive change."
Less aggression
“He is hitting much less often! And when he does start, we have much better tools to diffuse the situation before a full battle begins.”
Here’s what you’ll notice.
More love
“Now he tells me every day that I'm the best, sweetest mom in the whole world. That is a huge shift!”.
Better relationships
“He is now playing more with his younger brother, and using words instead of hitting when he gets frustrated”
Deeper connection
“I am more connected to him, and I can recognize now when he needs help so we can avoid the outbursts.
More fun
“We have more fun together and I see the good in him more.”
Confidence
“I have tools to use now! And they work so well! I also feel much more confident in my parenting..
These are real outcomes that families with aggressive boys have gotten from this program.
“Now I actually enjoy parenting again! My whole family is having more fun, laughing more, and feeling more connected.
His rough behaviors are almost non-existent now, and when they do happen, things go so much more smoothly.”
~Out With Aggression Parent
How we’ll do it.
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✺ Coaching calls
Bring your questions to our 6 live group video calls, and I’ll help you out!
We will meet Thursdays from 11am-noon PT, and sessions will be recorded.
This is an amazing way to get my direct guidance and feedback on how things are coming together with your boy.
Everyone’s situation is different, so this is your opportunity to take the Out With Aggression system and personalize it to you and your family!
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✺ Listening calls
As a parent with an aggressive child, one of the best things you can do is get things off your chest.
This is a safe, non-judgmental, and supportive space to vent and talk things through.
Come away feeling lighter, refreshed, and re-energized so you’re able to better handle your boy.
There are 6 of these live gatherings during our time together.
We will meet Tuesdays from 9-10am PT. To maintain confidentiality and safety, these sessions will NOT be recorded.
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✺ Text message support
You get up to 10 opportunities to text me directly!
I’ll respond and share how to handle a situation, give new insights, or give a great idea to help you out.
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✺ Video course
Lifetime access to the Out With Aggression video course with practical steps that help your boy.
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✺ Community
Lean on other parents who are dealing with aggressive boys! Finally, you’re surrounded by people who totally get it. Help is just a post away!
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✺ Guest expert library
Guest Expert Library with over 20 interviews spanning an array of helpful aggression-specific topics.
Alexia Vernon
Founder, Step into Your Moxie
“You have figured out how to be able to help people in one of the most vulnerable roles that one can inhabit, parenting.
One of your superpowers is really giving people a space to anesthetize themselves from shame, and bring in playfulness.”
Boys become happier, calmer, and better behaved
More hugs, flexibility & fun
“My son is happier, calmer, and he hugs me more.
He’s behaving better at school, and his self-esteem and eye contact has improved.
He’s less afraid, more flexible, funnier - he's showing more of who he is.”.
Better than other books & programs
“I can’t say enough great things about this programs.
After having read so many books and taken multiple other courses,
This is the one that will ‘stick’ and make a difference in my life.”
Even other people notice a difference
“A big win! My parents are visiting, and normally having a visitor is very dysregulating.
My daughter has actually been pretty good and calm.
My parents said they’ve noticed such a difference in her behavior!”
I completely understand what you’re going through
In case we haven’t met yet, I’m Tosha Schore - parenting coach, author, and mom of a boy who used to struggle with aggression.
I’m a certified Hand-In-Hand Parenting trainer, a Step into Your Moxie® facilitator, and a DRPA-approved mediator, and have been featured in many summits, newspapers and magazines sharing how boys can overcome aggression…
Most importantly, I’ve helped tons of families like yours
But before I became an expert in the field, I was just another mom who lived in fear of getting hurt and worrying about my son’s future. It sucked!
You’re not alone - MANY of us are dealing with aggressive boys. And it doesn’t have to stay this way!
Out With Aggression gives you a clear and simple step-by-step system to help your boy move past this.
Your sweet boy is in there, underneath all the violent and disruptive behaviors.
It’s my mission to help your boy leave aggression behind and grow into the well-adjusted, fulfilled and happy person you want him to be!
Together we will create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time!
✺ Frequently asked questions ✺
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You may access learning materials the moment you register. Live support begins Monday, October 6.
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My focus here is on ages 2ish-10ish, but no child is too young or too old to benefit from what you'll learn.
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Fabulous! Please practice these techniques with all your kids. Your family and the world will become more peaceful places.
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While I don't speak to specific neurodivergent situations, what I teach is applicable to neurodivergent children, and you can modify the practices for your unique situation. Also, I'm available in group or by text to guide you.
This program has immensely helped many parents of kids with ADD, ADHD, SPD, ODD, PDA and autism.
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Fine. Don't worry about it for now. One of my bonus modules will boost your confidence about parenting from different pages, and you will make amazing progress on your own. Once they see, they’ll likely want to get in your secrets.
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The live component of the program lasts for six (6) weeks. You will also have 5 weekly modules to work through that you will have access to for as long as they exist.
You may find you zoom through Module 1, but want to take 2 weeks on Module 2 before jumping into Module 3. Or the other way around. You decide what pace works for you.
The information is all at your fingertips, and I’m here to support you on your journey.
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This really depends on you, your boy, and what's going on in your life right now. As with everything, the more you put in, the quicker you will benefit.
If you take my hand as I guide you through, step-by-step, you will likely see signs of change very quickly.
Please understand, though, that this course is a practice. I teach you specific strategies to use with your boys (and girls too, if you have them). with the intention of you adopting them as your default parenting tools. We're in this parenting thing for the long haul.
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You will have immediate access to all modules. No waiting! We'll workshop the program together, step-by-step, beginning October 6.
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I’m confident in the value of this program and fully committed to supporting you every step of the way. Because the coaching and community support are live and the results depend on your active participation, I do not offer refunds. Please sign up with intention, knowing your energy and commitment will help you get the most from this experience.
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Email me at hello@parentingboyspeacefully.com
“My experience has been transformative and eye-opening. I’ve spun 180° toward peaceful parenting.
It’s extremely action-oriented, and I’ve seen changes already after only a few weeks! I’m hopeful and excited to stay on this new path!”
~Out With Aggression Parent